If you’re anything like me, nothing compounds your anxiety quite like a Hallmark holiday rising over the horizon. Whatever your
relationship status, Valentine’s Day can be a fraught mess of emotions and expectations. That’s why I enjoy sitting this one out and reclaiming it as a me-day.
Valentine’s Day is about showing love to the one you love, and we think that should absolutely include self-love. So if you’ve been wondering how you’re going to make it through the next few teddy bear- and chocolate-filled days unscathed, take a deep breath and relax: we’re here to help you plan the most relaxing, anxiety-free Valentine’s Day with a variety of self-care gifts for every budget.
We understand that the act of self-care varies from person to person. For my mum, it looks like a glass of wine or a piece of expensive chocolate. For my sister, it’s splurging on a new
workout outfit for her morning bootcamp. For me, it’s a long bubble bath and spending time with a sex toy. Maybe you’re more of a morning meditation person. Perhaps you’d rather curate a skincare routine or indulge in a trendy piece of jewellery. Whatever your self-care looks like, we hope we can help get rid of your Valentine’s Day stress. Give your brain and body some extra TLC and keep scrolling to shop 20 self-care gift ideas for the best, most relaxing solo Valentine’s Day of your life. Because nobody knows how to love you like you.
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Self-care gifts under £30
Nothing says self-care like an indulgent bath, soaking in the soothing aromas of LUSH’s bestselling sleepy time bath bomb.
Lush Sleepy Bath Bomb and Shower Gel Duo Set, $, available at ASOS
TikTok-viral perfume broke the internet with its apparent ability to evoke the smell of whoever your heart is missing. If you need an extra boost of comfort that feels like a warm hug from a loved one (particularly if you find yourself in a long-distance relationship this V-Day), this is the scent for you. Phlur Missing Person Eau de Parfum 9.5ml, $, available at Selfridges
Say goodbye to your holey, old t-shirt and sweatpants combination; and hello to a luxe, silky night gown that makes you feel like a old Hollywood star.
Boux Avenue Valentines Amelia Chemise in Pink, $, available at ASOS
Whether you’re planning a Galentine’s dinner or a solo self-care evening in with your favourite film, this beautifully designed bottle will elevate your night. Even better it tastes as good as it looks
— a light, juicy red that even red-haters will love. New Theory Love Bite 750ml, $, available at Selfridges
If you’re one of those voracious minds who misses school because you just want to learn as much as you can, stimulate your brain with any of the informative classes available at MasterClass. Within its wellness category you can find courses that range from how to be your most authentic self to yoga and fitness fundamentals from some of the best pros out there. If the arts are more your bag, there’s a wealth of knowledge and industry insight from the likes of Margaret Atwood.
Masterclass Margaret Atwood Teaches Creative Writing, $, available at MasterClass
This candle melts into a smooth massage oil that feels like pure luxury against your skin. Available in two scents (or unscented for those with sensitive skin), it sinks in quickly, never feeling greasy or sticky, just giving you pure relaxation. For an extra spicy night, finish your self-massage with
Maude’s chic (and back in stock) three-speed Vibe. Maude Burn No. 3, $, available at Maude
There’s a reason why this is one of the world’s most renowned and beloved wines
— it’s delicious! Light, fresh and zingy, it’ll transport you instantly to the south of France. Château d’Esclans Whispering Angel, $, available at Waitrose Cellar
Self-care gifts under £50
For a truly decadent treat, you can’t beat this array of truffles (champagne and strawberry, milk sea salt caramel, dark chocolate with gold leaf, billionaire’s shortbread and more). And you can’t get any more V-Day-ready thank with a pretty pink, heart-shaped tin box that you can reuse to store trinkets and treasures.
Charbonnel et Walker Connoisseur Truffle Selection Heart Box 315g, $, available at Fenwick
I was gifted this insulated YETI mug a few years ago and it completely changed my morning routine. Now I don’t have to rush to drink my coffee as quickly as possible — I can take my sweet, sweet time. The mug regulates my coffee temperature so I can savour each delicious sip. This version has a tapered base so you can treat yourself on the go, too.
YETI Rambler 30 Oz. Tumblr, $, available at YETI
Sometimes self-care can be as simple as treating ourselves to an ultra glitzy, ultra glam eyeshadow palette and then wearing those sparkly eyeshadows in our everyday lives. As a long time fan of Urban Decay’s Space Cowboy shadow, I am so excited about getting my mitts on this set of four. Honestly, it’s the only eyeshadow I will pack, no matter the event
— festival, wedding, holiday, night out… Urban Decay Moondust Quad Space Rider, $, available at Look Fantastic
With so much external life stress, it can be hard to get in the mood. But don’t worry. Formulated to boost your mood and regulate hormones that are related to depression and burnout, this delicious-tasting supplement from wellness brand Moon Juice can help lower your stress levels while increasing desire. Count us in!
Moon Juice Sex Dust, $, available at Moon Juice
Nothing says R&R like cosying up in front of a crackling fire. If you’re not willing to commit to buying a whole-ass fireplace (although
there are options for that), this firewood-scented candle from Maison Margiela is a great choice. With up to 40 hours of burn time, it’ll last longer than a real fire, too. Maison Margiela Replica By The Fireplace Candle, 165g, $, available at John Lewis
I’m a firm believer that the best self-care gift for anyone is the gift of pleasure. This three-speed massager from Maude is petite enough to fit into the palm of your hand and get into all the nooks and crannies you feel like exploring. It’s also waterproof so you can
both come in the bath. Your vagina will thank you. Maude Drop, $, available at Maude
Some say diamonds are a girls best friend, but we’d rather have waterproof jewellery. These heart shaped huggies are the perfect accessory for love day, and they won’t get tarnished while you enjoy a self-care soak or spa day.
Hey Harper Mini Heart Huggies, $, available at Hey Harper
Self-care gifts under £100
Burning Cherry from Kayali is perfect for Valentine’s Day. Rich, juicy cherries marry with notes of rose, jasmine, spicy and woody palo santo, patchouli and tonka beans to create a lush, enticing fragrance that lasts all day
— seriously, you’ll spritz at 9 am and still have compliments by 9 pm. Kayali Lovefest Burning Cherry 100ml, $, available at ASOS
Over 1600 very satisfied Lovehoney customers rate this unassuming vibrator for being powerful, durable (its waterproof), customisable (6 levels of toe-curling pleasure) and easy to use. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, it’s time to treat yourself to some serious self-love.
Lovehoney x Womanizer Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator, $, available at Lovehoney
Did you know that a weighted blanket can lead to better sleep and actually help improve your mental health? The deep pressure puts your body into ‘
rest mode‘, which is why we’re obsessed with this ultra luxurious, weighted throw blanket from Kudd.ly. Not only does it block out light and feel smooth against skin but it helps us wake up more rested. Kudd.ly Weighted Blanket, $, available at Kudd.ly
Coffee table books are self-care in the form of creative inspiration, especially when it’s a behind the scenes look into the beautiful, magical world of Sofia Coppola’s films.
Sofia Coppola Archive (Paperback), $, available at Waterstones
Self-care can’t always be bubble baths and massages. Sometimes it’s going to yoga, running, taking a dance class or lifting weights at the gym. Nothing makes exercising a little more fun than a pair of new leggings and these buttery soft, sculpting bestsellers from Sweaty Betty feel like a hug for your bum and thighs. They’re designed to be extra thick and supportive so you can feel more comfortable working out.
Sweaty Betty Power Pro 7/8 Gym Leggings – Magenta Fusion Purple, $, available at Sweaty Betty
A super cosy robe? Yes please! Made from 100% cotton, Rituals’ bestselling robe comes in six stylish colours and makes us feel like we’re being swaddled in self-care.
Rituals Cotton Bathrobe Women, $, available at Rituals
Self-care gifts under £200
An ongoing fresh flower subscription = pure joy every month.
Flowerbx 3 Month Flower Subscription Digital Gift Certificate, $, available at Flowerbx
When I say I had the best night’s sleep under a Magic Linen duvet cover, I’m not exaggerating. A total game-changer for night owls and those who love long weekend lie-ins.
Magic Linen Woodrose Linen Duvet Cover, $, available at Magic Linen
Buying yourself a gift card may seem weird in treating yourself to one
— especially for an experience day like a spa trip or weekend break — it means you have something to plan for and eagerly anticipate. Virgin Experience Days Gift Card £150, $, available at Virgin Experience Days
Feeling femme? We hear you. Slide into this silky smooth, lace-edged PJ set and queue up
Legally Blonde on Netflix for a perfect V-Day treat. Dora Larsen Gigi Short and Cami Set, $, available at Dora Larsen
Work out even the tensest knots and muscles with this compact Theragun. It’s ultra portable, has a run time of over two hours and a nearly perfect five-star rating. Oh, and did we mention it’s on sale right now? Daily massages have never been more possible.
Therabody Theragun Mini, $, available at Therabody
A sweet — and very stylish — reminder to prioritise self-love every day, long after Valentine’s.
Loveness Lee Heart Ruby Recycled Silver Pendant, $, available at Loveness Lee
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